working on yourself is the most important work of your life My toxic trait is that I can be quite oblivious to my surroundings. Until recently, I had no idea that that friend of a friend had a crush on me. Yesterday I walked right by a friend who was waving to me in the street—not because I’m a stuck-up snob with my nose in the air, but because I genuinely didn’t notice her. Sometimes, I childishly don’t realize what I’m feeling about a specific situation until I’ve had the time and distance to sort it all out in my head (and maybe also have a snack, which somehow makes everything clearer). I’ve always got my head in the clouds, but lately I’ve been trying to come back down to Earth. At least for a little bit. And I’m getting there with a little help from my friends. By friends, I mean a whole retinue of books on awareness—books on self-awareness, that is. I’ve done a lot of reading, a lot of highlighting, and a lot of dog-earing the pages. (Don’t tell your neurotic book friends!) In my eternal quest for self-development, I think these books are helping me get one (baby) step closer. Maybe they can help you, too.
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