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🌻 Why Being a Loner Helps You Make New Friends
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When you’re confident and comfortable in your own company, it becomes easier to talk to strangers, reach out first, and make plans repeatedly. That’s what builds friendship, whether you’re moving to a new city or just facing a social dry spell. We are suffering from a loneliness epidemic. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you. Depending on whom you talk to, some might even tell you we’re suffering from a male loneliness epidemic, specifically. Whether we let men claim loneliness as their own personal plight or evaluate the larger spectrum of adult relationships, the present and future states of friendship look bleak:
And this isn’t just a problem with “the kids these days.” Across genders and generations, people everywhere are struggling to make new friends. In this post, I share four truths on how to make new friends as an adult—and why learning to get confident and comfortable in your own company will actually help you make more friends. Do you feel lonely doing things by yourself?
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A space to learn how to enjoy your own company and make life less scary and more exciting.
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